Lock: How can you give your baby away?

Omega Family Global Surrogates are special women who understand that their purpose is to help someone else’s family grow.  Omega ascertains that each woman passes OFG’s meticulous medical and psychological evaluations before allowing eager intended parents to meet her.

The Mindset

The potential surrogate must show that she is in the proper mindset.  This allows her to accomplish the various steps of the journey.  First, she becomes pregnant through IVF with another couples’ embryo.  Second, she follows through a pregnancy.  Third, she gives the child to his or her parents after he or she is born.  One of the most important elements of a surrogate’s mindset is knowing that she is not giving the baby away; she is rather giving the baby back to its biological parents.

It’s hard to understand a woman who is willing to give a child away.  This is especially true after she has carried a child for 9 months in her womb.  In gestational surrogacy, a woman will become pregnant willingly and carry a child.  The difference is that she never intends to keep the baby.  She enjoys the pregnancy for a selfless and compassionate reason: helping someone else.

Surrogacy: the last hope 

Baby in hands. Surrogates purposeFor those who have been fortunate enough to become pregnant easily, it may be difficult to understand that surrogacy becomes the last hope for someone to have a baby. This person or couple would probably never become parent(s) if it weren’t for a compassionate surrogate who is willing to carry a baby for them.    

A gestational surrogate knows that the baby she is carrying will not become part of her family.  She cares for the child with love but is ready to return it to its real parents. Like an aunt or an uncle who may care for their nieces and nephews, they are ready to return the child once their parents arrive to claim them.

The pre-birth order or PBO

The Pre-Birth Order or PBO is a legal document that provides intended parents with the peace of mind that the surrogate could never claim custody of their child.  This document is a court-issued judgment that determines who the baby’s parents are.  The PBO must be signed by the surrogate, where she legally states that she has no intention of keeping the child after its birth.

The surrogate does create a protective bond with the child because, in essence, she is the baby’s caretaker during the pregnancy. Once the baby is born, the surrogate’s purpose is fulfilled, and the baby goes home with his or her parents.

Key:  I give the baby back, not away.

Intended parents and surrogates know that the baby belongs to the intended parents.  Surrogates do not desire to keep the child, because if they did, it would destroy the whole purpose of their surrogacy journey.